The toughest part of quitting drugs and alcohol may not even be the substances themselves - that's bad enough. For many it is the people in those circles that most will continue to be involved with every day. People at work, people you think are friends, a family member. People you don't think you can cut out of your life. People telling you how hard it is to quit when really they just don't want you to succeed. Same people who don't have a clue how hard it is because they've either never quit or maybe went a few days or a couple weeks or months one time. Why? Because if and when you succeed in your pursuit of sobriety then they are left looking in the mirror having to examine themselves and their own reasons for giving in to the drink or the drug. They do not like that. Much easier to grind on the one trying to go straight than to grow a pair and quit. Sure they will wish you well but they won't make it easier for you to do by quitting themselves. Their habit is more of a priority than their relationship with you. Misery loves company - it doesn't want people leaving. I realized that in order for me to quit drinking and drugs I had to disassociate from everyone I knew who did drink or did drugs. No easy task for me as a houseframer who was a regular downtowner in my time off. There was booze and dope all day long at work and all night long afterwards. Every single person I knew was a substance abuser. Meeting women meant "Make the bar before last call and fill her up with alcohol". In order to change my lifestyle I had to change my address and give up all my so called friends. I didn't change occupation but I never again worked for the guy who buys beers for his workers or fires up the doobie on break. I also got laid a lot less when I stopped going to bars but when I did hook up we'd be sober and it was waaay better. There's women in libraries looking for sober guys! Yeah it was tough but I knew I was tougher. I moved out of town - took a country apartment after making sure the neighbor was straight and never called any "buddies" any more. When you realize all you have in common with some people is the drink or the drug - it's time to quit them as well as the substance. The old saying "Misery loves company" is in full effect when you quit in the presence of people who have no intention of doing so. If you want to give up losing you will also have to give up losers. And wouldn't you know it - not one of the people I used to associate with has ever called to see how I was doing or say they missed me. So if you're quitting drugs and quitting alcohol why not quit fools while you're at it? I'm not talking about fellow sufferers at AA meets either - that's different - like minded people who are on the road to sobriety can help. I'm talking about the ones who don't think daily drinking or drug use is a problem for them or think that they are "handling it" (not their attempt at sobriety but handling their daily functions while drinking or doing drugs) or worse the enablers who keep offering a taste to you because they forgot you quit. Sure they did. Just my 2¢ based on experience.