So, I re-installed the D-AME-3 stylus in the 500-II but removed the stylus brush and began experimenting. Set the tracking at 1 gram (to start), but had to set the anti-skate at 2+ grams to keep the needle from wandering inward. Then set the tracking to 2 grams, but even at the maximum anti-skating setting of 3+, the cart still pushed inward on the blank band. In both cases the sound was full of sibilance. The D-AME-3 is apparently not a good match for the PD-284's low mass arm. Just for reference, I should note that the LP Gear Stanton D5100EE replacement stylus (that I'm now using with the 500-II behaves well, can accommodate a "normal" anti-skate setting, and sounds okay.) But I'm looking for more. My options are:
1. To see what needlestein has to offer as a perfect stylus for my existing 500-II cart
2. Bag the Stanton and go new.
-- One such recommendation was to "Put a high compliance Stanton, Shure or Ortofon on it (my TT) and you’ll have a great tonearm/cartridge match."
-- Another poster said "Once mated to a Shure DM95 Type G cartridge with Shure 75 HE stylus, this table will sing like you wouldn't believe."
-- Try an M97xE, as noted 2X above (and loved by still many others).
-- "Grado Black" entry level.
-- Other $$$ suggestions: "A 2M Blue would be a great choice, although some prefer the slightly warmer sound of the older 500 series. The 520 mkll or 530 mkll would then be my suggestions." "Audio Technica AT440mla or Denon DL110."
Thanks if anyone is still listening.