rushfan
Super Member
Hey rushfan! Great to hear you are doing well, as I recall you were in a similar boat around the same time.
I guess I did leave the dating part out, but not much to talk about there.
I know what you mean about the Red Pill. I kinda see things that way lately, but I'm taking the 'mgtow' path more than the 'game' path. I take from the self improvement aspect, but I'm not using that to get anywhere with the ladies, just for my own benefit. I'm keeping an open mind, but there's not much I need from a woman in my life these days. After 22 years (would have been our 25th this year, yikes) I'm enjoying doing my own thing.
I have a friend-girl who I enjoy quality time with, and activities, but I'm not committing any time soon. She is great and we have feelings going on, but she has kids and understands that helping to raise someone else's kids is not my cup of tea. Plus we both appreciate having our own separate place to call home. Not sharing bills etc takes a lot of stress out of things.
I put no effort into meeting other women, I'm just not into most of what I see available, whether it be physically, attitude or both.
Occasionally a lady will be flirty with me (like at the 2 day first aid course I just took). But I usually just pretend I don't know what they are up to and let it fall flat. "Drinks after? No thanks, I gotta go buy cat food" haha.
I'm good with hanging out with the girl once a week or so, and being on my own otherwise. Maybe that will change someday, but for now it's nice.
This is music to my ears
Separate residences is the way to go, IMO. It's hard to miss somebody when they're around all of the time and you don't get bogged down in silly "who left the cap off the toothpaste?" arguments. I don't know that I'll ever cohabitate with a woman again, knowing what I know now.
You're WAY further along in the healing process than I suspected. Bravo!!