Some people just don't get that attachment that you are describing. For me, it is a combination of the gear, the music, the space and the occasional guest. All of that adds up to an intense, personal, intimate experience that I have cherished for years.
To your point about hearing preservation, you are wise beyond your years. I have some moderate hearing loss that probably could have been avoided. It isn't too bad, but I wonder at times what I am missing.
Good luck at the inaugural dance!