The folklore arises because some preamps make horrific thumps at power-up time. Letting the preamp stabilize prior to power amp switch-on effectively mutes that thump. Overloading the preamp output line is a non-issue with regard to reliability --- some power amps even short-circuit their input jacks for a while at power-up time. There is a serious problem with paralleling power amp inputs, however, if you plan to sometimes leave an amplifier powered down during normal system operation. In that case, the preamp may deliver a highly distorted signal to the active amplifier channels.