Stereo solutions to appease a not so understanding spouse

Discussion in 'Listening Spaces' started by xs650shawn, Mar 11, 2014.

  1. drabina

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    It just shows that the problem is not that unique. My wife also belongs to the "not so understanding" ones but I am standing my ground and always use the right arguments in conversations. To me a compromise would be a great solution to the problem but it looks like it just doesn't work with some people. My wife's logic: an antique piece of furniture is OK to bring home but speakers are not. Having no space on any of the shelves in the house due to nick knacks and vases is OK but stand with headphones is "out of the question". Hmm?
     
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  2. sanford12

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    I got lucky. Found that one first. She's still gives me grief about selling the Dahlquist DQ-12's
     
  3. Searing75

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    A true woman supports her man in his passions. A true man does the same for his woman.
     
  4. arts

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    Neville Chamberlaine believed in appeasement. We all know how that ended.....
     
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  5. OutlawSun

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    Yeah I definitely think something lower slung would look better especially in regards to the placement of the receiver and turntable which both seem really high up. Can't imagine placing a record on that table and dropping the needle with much comfort.
     
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    Was (sort of) worth trudging through 17 pages of lectures just to retrieve this little gem [​IMG]
     

     

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  7. FOH Engineer

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    Agreement from me on Yamaha's post..its bad enough every TV ad features the feeble IDIOT submissive husband, I point this out to anyone that will listen..
    My wife is supportive to a fault...nothing more pitiful than a grown man "hiding" purchased items from a spouse because they will be in trouble...for God's sake , grow a pair, and learn how to be in a relationship with somebody that actually likes you because you are your whole self..not some pile of scared feelings.
     
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  8. Tube Radio

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    When I get a wife if I bring a piece of gear home and it is not due to me hoarding or out of space the gear will stay.
     
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  10. PRESSON100

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    I have had many problems with spouse approval as well. What I did was take up an additional hobby; woodworking. I can now build very attractive cabinets, speakers, bookshelfs and anything else necessary to make the stereo system accepted.
    Of course, this was after thousands spent on woodworking tools.
     
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  11. Todd Dodds

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    Your post inspired me. I followed your advice. I grew a pair. I told her I wanted to buy some interconnect cables for $375 of my own hard earned money.
    When I woke up, I didn't know what day it is. But her boyfriend Hi-Fived me, and said I was awesome. Thanks, FOH Engineer.
     
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  12. 50nstillhifi

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    LOL...... LOL..... !!
     
  13. onwardjames

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    While no doubt many of the older members here will defend the institution of marriage, I'm sorta like Mae West on this (although I'm married myself).

    "Marriage is a beautiful institution, but I'm not ready for an institution."

    :biggrin:

    All jokes aside, I dearly love my wife, but I don't see men getting much out of the deal nowadays. And the media portrayal of men (nearly always white males, at that) is deplorable.
    I for one have had more than enough of it.

    And then there's the portrayal I've seen creeping in commercials of late of mild cuckoldry.

    Just because I'm paranoid, doesn't mean they're not out to get me. :beatnik::p
     
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  14. Johnny 007

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    Of course it's a bad deal for men. Very much so. Just the other ay one of my friends was telling me that he wanted to retire but that he "can't." He can't because he has a wife that seems to think she has her very own slave who has to go to work every day to earn money so that she can continue to have a certain lifestyle. Fancy cars, a big house, spa visits, vacations, a maid to do the housework, etc.... And this is the same woman who won't let him play his stereo because it "bothers" her. Around me, she'd last about five minutes...

    I tried to tell him that it's his choice, really. It's easy enough to get a divorce. Anyway, for that reason I don't really feel sorry for him. He choses the life on a daily basis.
     
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  15. Ol' Ken

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    LIKE THEY SAY ABOUT DIVORCE.....IT'S SO EXPENSIVE BECAUSE ITS WORTH IT...

    I speak from experience....
     
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  16. Archguy

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    You're absolutely right, of course, but--in support of what James says above--mass media portrayals engage in a lot of shaming with regard to men in general, but in particular men who aren't toeing the line 'properly' in the traditional sense. Or who have simply found their own way however. While women who 'buck the system' are lauded every which way. I'm reminded of Milhouse van Houten's parents on the Simpsons. Father is made out a loser whose life is ruined by the divorce while mom is liberated and parties the rest of her life.

    [​IMG]

    Kirk van Houten ends up here. "Bachelor Arms has a high rate of suicides."

    Let that be a warning to you all!
     
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  17. onwardjames

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    I once started a thread here about the movement known as mgtow. I was roundly and soundly screamed out of town.

    Now, I wasn't even taking a side, per se, but it was clear to me that many took offense at even trying to understand what mgtow was about.

    Maybe in real life I give offense, but here, I always try to be as civil as I can be.

    As to the original point of this thread, I'd say with women (and people in general) all having their own personal hot buttons, desires, and varying perspectives, communication is key, I would think.
     
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  18. 50nstillhifi

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    Just thinking... if you have a speaker (ceiling/satellite) type in every room in the house.. its more difficult to be "denied" your music or hobby.

    Most times... given the favored artist and "mood" for that matter, even the most resistant wife will join in (note I did NOTsay.. submit).

    On "special occasions", a celebratory beverage helps : )
     
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    Gavrilo Princip did not. That ended even worse, one could argue...
     
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  20. FOH Engineer

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    I think you used me for the wrong inspiration. I'm a lamp cord speaker wire , and 20 bucks or less patch cable guy. But to be fair either spouse denying the other any discretionary spending is a great way to ensure resentment long term.
    And btw why are so many guys into Hi Fi married to people that won't tolerate it. It must be a drag to have a spouse totally intolerant of something they love. (Of course not implying something involving boorish behavior, ignoring kids , cheating, etc.)
     
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