Being a good citizen of the internet and AK.

It's cool to see that most people so far say they re-read and sometimes edit their posts after posting. i do that, and for some reason see edits i want to make that were invisible to me in preview mode.

bobbyonions said:
Yeah, whatever.
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Too F'in funny!
 
Great thread, Brett.

I try to remember (not as successfully as I'd like) that we are working without non verbal cues. So what often seems to have humor or that I mean to have a specific meaning doesn't come across as I would like because you can't see the rest of the communication.

I do my best to keep that in mind. It's very difficult for me as I'm a person who uses as much non verbal as verbal communication. My wife, friends and colleagues always tell me that my face is very expressive. My parents said the same. What that means is that I have a lot of work to do to get something across as I mean it to.

I'll keep at it.

As with most of us I also bring baggage and triggers. Even though I'm aware of them I let it get away sometimes. Best way I've found to deal with that is to wade into threads cautiously. I try not to open it if I think it involves a conversation that is a hot button topic for me. Again, I'm more successful at that in theory than practice. First step is awareness.
 
mhardy6647 said:
I'm pretty even tempered until someone asks, yet again, if it is safe to connect two amps to one pair of speakers.
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So Mark...I got these two amps here and....:D

I'm pretty relaxed about most everyone's opinions because I know I'm right even if the rest of the world is wrong...no wait, just kidding.

I generally try to stay out of the mix and the drama. I don't do drama at home nor at work so why would I be interested in a pissing match here in someone else's home? It's been said already something along the lines of "If it goes against my moral compass I won't perpetuate the conversation." That's pretty much me.

I also try not to post when I've had a couple cocktails. I'm a happy drunk but I don't want to let you guys in on all the fun. :lmao:

Oh..one more thing. Don't take anything I say seriously or with bad insinuated feelings. Not that I care what you think of me but anything I say is usually in jest. I'm just an average Bob that likes fooling around comradery-wise just as if I was at work. I've never put anyone on ignore, I'll just tell ya to go chit in 'yer hat instead. :lmao:
 
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I think I communicate better face-to-face and I suspect many here feel the same way. But we're not all in a room together, so I'm content to work with the medium we have available.

I have issues I'm passionate about, and grammatical errors like ending sentences with prepositions are not among them. I probably would get a fair amount of disbelief if I said Rega turntables are not among them, but it's true. I consider myself open-minded, but I'm pretty happy to carry on an argument. And if the argument keeps being brought up, I'm pretty happy to keep defending my view. Some people on the forum most likely get the impression I'm argumentative, and to be honest, I'm sort of ok with that. I'm not the only one.
 
One also has to be cautious of threads that are pre-loaded with intent. :scratch2:

For example, if I say "I do not understand how you measure resistance in a woofer," I'm stating that I have a question and hope someone can answer it. :thmbsp:

If, however, I say "I do not understand how a person can X or Y or Z," [use any value you like for X, Y, and Z] I am not stating I have a question and am looking for an answer. I am stating that I have a strong opinion and do not wish to agree with anyone who feels differently, but I would like to demonstrate my ire and argue with anyone who does disagree. :thumbsdn:

Just Google for the term, "I do not understand how anyone could" and see what you get. These are not questions looking for answers; these are position statements. :scratch2:

My problem is that I read the question as I believe it is intended to be read and respond to that, rather than taking it literally so that my response can be fed into the woodchipper by the person with an issue to raise. :tears:

I call this a form of passive-aggressiveness because it's a hidden statement of what one dislikes. Instead of saying clearly, "I don't think people should own more than X number of Y," they say "I don't understand how anyone could own more than X number of Y." They're not asking to be educated; they are making a combative statement. Naughty me :nono: for taking it the way I feel they mean it. Gotta work on that. :yes::yes::yes::yes:

I mean this in the best possible way. If there is a good way in which to mean it. Just trying to explain myself here.
 
Wigwam Jones said:
One also has to be cautious of threads that are pre-loaded with intent. :scratch2:

For example, if I say "I do not understand how you measure resistance in a woofer," I'm stating that I have a question and hope someone can answer it. :thmbsp:

If, however, I say "I do not understand how a person can X or Y or Z," [use any value you like for X, Y, and Z] I am not stating I have a question and am looking for an answer. I am stating that I have a strong opinion and do not wish to agree with anyone who feels differently, but I would like to demonstrate my ire and argue with anyone who does disagree. :thumbsdn:

Just Google for the term, "I do not understand how anyone could" and see what you get. These are not questions looking for answers; these are position statements. :scratch2:

My problem is that I read the question as I believe it is intended to be read and respond to that, rather than taking it literally so that my response can be fed into the woodchipper by the person with an issue to raise. :tears:

I call this a form of passive-aggressiveness because it's a hidden statement of what one dislikes. Instead of saying clearly, "I don't think people should own more than X number of Y," they say "I don't understand how anyone could own more than X number of Y." They're not asking to be educated; they are making a combative statement. Naughty me :nono: for taking it the way I feel they mean it. Gotta work on that. :yes::yes::yes::yes:

I mean this in the best possible way. If there is a good way in which to mean it. Just trying to explain myself here.
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I don't understand how anyone couldn't understand that :D
 
I have an old weathered post-it-note that has been stuck on every monitor I have owned (going back to dumb terminals)

"If you do not have anything constructive to add.... Say NOTHING"

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tboat4 said:
An English writer, Dorothy Nevill once said:

"The real art of conversation is not only to say the right thing in the right place, but to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment."
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Wise words indeed.
 
I usually stick to facts(less controversy that way) and do not get too personal.If I disagree we with someone I ask for more info and evaluate the situation ,
 
before i post i always ask "what would Foghat do?"


Seriously this is the most civil bulletin board I have ever encountered. I think folks here lead by example. It is cool to be friendly and tolerant, the rest of the web varies. I am the same person where-ever i go, though as posted above, on the net we have the luxury of editing.
 
I always try to be helpful and thoughtful when I post. If I do start out angry or upset it usually gets deleted before getting posted.
 
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