I know your feeling, bhunter.
I lived in the So. Cal. area (born in Santa Monica, '64), grew up in the Conejo Valley area and raised a family there too. Moved from there to the Santa Clarita area from 2013-2018.
I left Cali and moved out here to Country BumkinVille back in Feb 2018. I have no regrets. I would never go back.
California was great place for me growing-up, from the late 60's as a child thru the early-mid 90's, when starting a family of my own. I started seeing the "writing on the wall" by the late 90's.
California has many beautiful locations. I especially like some of the areas up north along the coast highway.
Now, I'm not sure how anyone, especially young families starting out, can afford living there and starting their lives like owning a home, and all the niceties that I was accustomed to growing-up, unless, both mom/dad both work and each earn $150K+ a year. Surprisingly, it turns out there many examples of just exactly that, both mom & dad banging out the big bucks and living the dream. I tip my hat to those examples. You planned accordingly.
Of course, many folks that were already established (say purchased their homes by the early 90's) are still hopefully doing okay too, and I hope that continues.
From the end of WW2 through until recent years, California was the place that many wanted to flock to for the opportunities it offered, especially high tech.
As it turns out, BumkinVille here has more Californian's now too. Most changed their license plates within the first 5 seconds of arriving and are now toting their 2nd amendment on their hip.