I think I should chime in here, since I've been in the aerospace hardware business in many different facets for over 26 years. Am certified to the NASA standard.
Professionally, for my crew I have bought (on the company tab!) Metal towers, which I'll go out on a limb and say probably the most expensive set up one could find. You never see what temperature you're soldering at since mecal instantly adjusts to the correct temperature required. Now, not everyone needs to spend well over a grand to solder. At home, where I tinker around on various projects (beloved Sansui) my work bench has had anywhere from the radio shack to hakko,american beauty,velleman,wep, weller etc,etc. My current home set up is a dual iron Weller, and it's here to stay. It's never let me down on any soldering required situation. There are certainly a lot of good irons out there, I've tried a majority of them, but I have to recommend weller-IMHO.
To get to momolou's question; regarding temperature, My general all round temp is 700 F. On larger lands/ground planes 750 F.
Some very good answers have already been mentioned.Contact time is critical, the higher the temp the shorter the contact. Removing most of the existing solder in the area & replacing w/ new (leaded) is certainly a very effective way when solder isn't flowing-especially on vintage pcb's.
You should never be putting any physical pressure on the eyelet being worked. the iron should just make contact to do it's thing. And remember, FLUX is your friend!
I've gone on too long. I hope these tips help you. I could go on with this subject for paragraphs-great for insomniacs....