This is just my opinion, and would be what I'd do, so take this advice with a grain of salt.
If your have a pair of mono vintage tube amps, you have the starter for a very nice system. If you haven't rebuilt then yet, you should seriously consider doing so for the life of the amp, and as an added benefit you WILL have an improvement in sonics. If you have two identicaly rebuilt monos, and you're using basically the same tubes in both of them, I would expect that their output should be basically the same. This would probably reduce your reliance on a balance pot, which is just another thing in the signal path that has an opportunity to suck.
I am not a big fan of vintage preamps, by and large. Nor am I a fan of tone controls, effects buttons, or any other frequency "helping" circuits. Unlike vintage amps, who's strength lay mainly in their very nice output transformers, a vintage preamp is all circuit dependent. I believe modern preamps are the way to go. You could start with the simplest/cheapest route and do just a passive volume control, you could build one of the many excellent kit offerings out there by the likes of Bottlehead, Hagerman, and others, or you could do more advanced DIY and start from scratch. The parts in the preamp that I would not scrimp on for sure would be the attenuator, and the source select mechanism. You can do one of many passive attenuation options with resistors, or even use something like an autoformer. This will result in a "stepped" control, which might seem like a compromise, but will actually be able to keep the channels more closely matched than say two infinately variable pots with wipers, which can be as much as 3dB off in some cases! Granted, there are some nice pots out there, too, but I'm talking cheap! If you do get a vintage preamp, remember that it'll have to be rebuilt for the same reasons a vintage amp would have to be.
Again, these are all mutterings of a probably deranged person! Sounds like a nice starting place you're in, no matter what route you take! Good luck, and let us know how it goes! :yes: