Best way is the way described at
http://daveyw.edsstuff.org/vinyl/loading/
There are a number of phono stages that have dual rca input plugs - that way you can connect loading plugs (same as in the method on the website named above) directly without an adapter.
Whatever the loading inside the phono stage is (whether switchable or otherwise) you can use paralel loading to raise the capacitance and lower the resistance.
What you cannot do is lower the capacitance or raise the resistance...
For that you need a phono stage with lower capacitance and higher resistance!
Ideally you want a phono stage with no additional capacitance (0pf) and 100k or higher resistance.
The most economical one I found that allowed for that was the firestone audio Korora.
It has switchable 220pf capacitive loading (which can be turned off), and it has an empty resistance slot, that you can ask to be filled with a high resistance when ordering....
Alternative is to modify an existing phono stage to alter the two parameters, build your own phono stage, or find one with switchable loading.
Others that have switchable loading:
Musical Surround Phonomena
Others that have loading plugs
Naim
JLTI Phono
Many vintage components also have switchable loading...
bye for now
David