What worked for me...
...back when I was a communications technician, was this:
A soldering iron with the tip kept clean and well-tinned. Big enough to flow enough heat quickly but not so big as to be clumsy, and not so hot as to flow too much heat faster than you can pull it away.
Have everything cleaned and fluxed. (Not too much flux, just the barest coating.)
Have everything in place, secured, and ready for the application of heat and solder. (Some alligator-clip stands are good for this.)
Have the soldering iron totally heated up before you touch it to the work.
Touch the iron to the work, then touch the solder to the work too. When you learn to do this just right, the solder will melt about a half-second after you touch it to the work, will flow into the joint, and will act as a heat-sink, helping to protect the parts.
I always tried to touch the iron to the work as far away as possible from the heat-sensitive part(s). I also tried to touch the solder to the work at a point between the heat-sensitive part(s) and the place the iron was touching.
Remove the solder and the iron. Do this the instant the solder melts and flows. You need only a tiny bit to do the job. Big gobs do not help.
Get a couple of hunks of some #12 solid copper wire, and experiment with it. If you can find some #18 or even smaller, so much the better. It will not take you very long to get a feel for the rate at which your iron flows heat, and for how much solder it takes to get a good joint.
Remember that the things you will be soldering probably will be a good deal smaller than even #18 copper.
There are many here who are far more expert than I. My experience was over 20 years ago. I cannot remember the brand name or rating of the iron I used. It was not very big.
Experiment and practice on scrap first.
Be patient. Take your time.
It is faster and easier to set it up right and do it right the first time than it is to tear it apart, buy new parts, and do it over.
I hope this helps. Best of luck.
