Today my father got his last wish.

[quiet]

Today Dad made a clean getaway on Father's Day at the age of 95 with no pain, no nursing home, no loss of dignity, no regrets. He was aided with ample amounts of morphine during a very short stay at the hospital. He enjoyed excellent health throughout his life prior to that. He had the opportunity to say goodby to all those that were dear to him. A perfect exit from this world and country that he called paradise.
He knew that I was well aware of his love for me, his only son.
I'm happy for him.
But still, today comes with a bit of a sting to it.

 

[highvoltage_]

Sorry to hear that. I lost my brother a little over a week ago, so I know what you're going through.

 

[cartop]

My condolences for your loss, My Dad passed at the same age.

 

[BroncoJimbo]

Condolences. I lost my Father last month. I wished we were closer, but he was just not interested in me or my kids.

 

[tourmax]

95 years and departed with dignity after a life well lived.

We should all be so "lucky" (no disrespect intended with the word "lucky").

Remember the good times. It sounds like there were many.

 

[GordonW]

Today Dad made a clean getaway on Father's Day at the age of 95 with no pain, no nursing home, no loss of dignity, no regrets. He was aided with ample amounts of morphine during a very short stay at the hospital. He enjoyed excellent health throughout his life prior to that. He had the opportunity to say goodby to all those that were dear to him. A perfect exit from this world and country that he called paradise.
He knew that I was well aware of his love for me, his only son.
I'm happy for him.
But still, today comes with a bit of a sting to it.

I get where you're coming from.

My Father died in his own bed- two days before Christmas. Just as he wanted it. Couldn't have been a better way to go.

However- I wound up planning a funeral Christmas Eve, and the funeral was held the day after Christmas, in 2018.

It's taken a while for Christmas to not feel "weird" to me. I just didn't feel like celebrating like everyone else. I tried to not let my lack of enthusiasm damp everyone else's joy- but it's only been the last year or two, that I've been able to celebrate Christmas somewhat like normal.

And- there's nothing wrong with any of that. We all deal with losing people important to us, in different ways, under different time schedules. As long as you remain a caring, thoughtful person to others- your feelings are our own, and if other people really care about you- they will understand.

Regards,
Gordon.

 

[rickb119]

So sorry for you loss.

 

[onwardjames]

To the OP and @highvoltage_ my utmost sympathies for you both.

My own father died on April 1st, 2015, so @GordonW while a much lesser day than Christmas, I have lost any desire to play April Fool's gags.

"Death is just the other end of being born." - Donald Burgett, member of the 101st Airborne and survivor of Bastogne.

 

[highvoltage_]

and @highvoltage_ my utmost sympathies for you both.

Thank you, Tim.

 

[tybrad]

I lost mine end of March 2010. I was glad for his release (numerous reasons) but I never went through a traditional grieving process.

I am sorry for all losses here.

 

[GordonW]

I lost mine end of March 2010. I was glad for his release (numerous reasons) but I never went through a traditional grieving process.

I am sorry for all losses here.

I wasn't "traditional" either. I wanted to go right back to work. In fact, my business partners and I left the funeral, and made a bee-line across most of Georgia, to get to a shelving supplier, to take advantage of a great deal one of my partners had found on some industrial shelving we desperately needed for our warehouse. I like to think my Dad would have understood completely- he would often say that you have to take advantage of the opportunities that come about, when they're available to you...

It took me a number of years- little by little, in little bouts now and then- to process everything. I don't claim to be completely done, even now- but I've been able to- with the help of a number of very understanding people- to function OK, whenever I need to...

Regards,
Gordon.

 

[old_tv_nut]

Sincere condolences.

 

[bruno80918]

So sorry for your loss.
I miss my dad everyday.
going out on your own terms is held in high regard by me.

 

[Old Guy8]

RIP, to your Dad. Condolences.
Your lovely post brings soft memories of my loses.

 

[spicer]

Today Dad made a clean getaway on Father's Day at the age of 95 with no pain, no nursing home, no loss of dignity, no regrets. He was aided with ample amounts of morphine during a very short stay at the hospital. He enjoyed excellent health throughout his life prior to that. He had the opportunity to say goodby to all those that were dear to him. A perfect exit from this world and country that he called paradise.
He knew that I was well aware of his love for me, his only son.
I'm happy for him.
But still, today comes with a bit of a sting to it.

What a, if I can say, a lovely post. Salute and God speed to your father.

 

[sanford12]

Good long run with good health. Hard to ask for more. Sorry for your loss. I love your outlook.

 

[Rey1]

Sorry for your loss, but it was a perfect way to depart.

 

[harman/kardon]

Sorry for your loss.

My mother passed away a few weeks ago aged 97 and the last three months of her life were a martyrdom. I am glad to learn that the Lord was nicer to your father. May he rest in peace.

 

[Cactus Bob]

My sincere condolences for your loss, he had a good life.

 

[init4fun]

Good long run with good health. Hard to ask for more. Sorry for your loss. I love your outlook.

Very well said