I think it is all a question of what it is supposed to drive, and my power amp gain is quite high to begin with ... so it is really my fault that I want to take an input signal of 2V and effectively attenuate it rather than "amplify it", and have a better driving capabilities to push the power amp input.
Not your “fault”.
Modern amps don’t need any gain at all, they can be driven to full power output by a signal that’s lower than the line level standard 2v. Typically input sensitivity is actually under 1v. I was unable to find a spec for its input sensitivity, but your amp is probably not radically different. They ALL require signal attenuation unless you’re using a weak source.
A preamp, by definition, adds gain which is not necessary but many people find that using a tube preamp subjectively improves the sound. I assume that’s why you’re using one. But the more gain you add the more attenuation is needed and this can create problems. As I see it, the trick is to find a happy medium.
The 12AU7 has an amplification factor (mu) of 20, which is the lowest of all the tubes in the 12A*7 family. But even with its (relatively) lower gain the useful range of the volume pot is limited which makes it difficult to make fine adjustments to the volume.
In the original Cary design they just added an additional volume pot which is the “pre-attenuator” you refer to. The variable output on your DAC provides the same function.
I thought of adding negative AC feedback (R-C) from plate to Grid. At least in sims, I can trim down the gain from 20db, down to about 10db
Sure, you could add some negative feedback to reduce the gain. But that just adds more complexity to an already overly complex (to me anyway) circuit. Who knows how it would sound. I recently tried plate to grid feedback and it did lower the gain but it sucked the life out of the sound. Different tube and implementation, though, so YMMV.
I prefer to simply use a tube with lower mu.
I like the coloring that the Tube ads to the mix (maybe it is the fact that driving my amp with its buffer stage, it can drive proper bass into my amp).
This circuit basically has the first stage is classic triode Class-A, gain stage, and the second is a cathode follower
The function of the cathode follower (aka buffer stage) is to lower the output impedance of the preamp so that it can easily drive the input impedance of your amp. A tube configured as a CF buffer is a common method. They are not used to add color to the sound they just lower output impedance.
If the sonic benefits you enjoy were due to lower output impedance then your system would sound just as good (or better) without the preamp because the output straight from a DAC has a lower output impedance than a preamp.
As for drive requirements, specs say your amp has an input impedance of 47k which makes it much easier to drive compared to most SS / Class D amps, which are commonly 20k and sometimes as low as 10k. Tube amps are typically 100k, so they’re very easy to drive.
In a preamp, I see the use of a cathode follower as a band aid that just adds more complexity to the circuit. But it's needed when the gain tube you choose has a plate resistance that results in an output impedance that’s too high.
I prefer to use a gain tube whose plate resistance is low so there is no need to add a cathode follower.
Hence my comment about gutting the audio circuit entirely. I prefer simple, low parts count, circuits.