Point Arena is great!
Thanks, Onepixel, for the little window into your world. We lived in Merced, CA, for several years and explored the northern coast of CA whenever we could. While we loved Monterey Bay and I always enjoyed exporing San Francisco (I could take the AmTrak from Merced to the city), our favorite place was Point Arena.
We (my pregnant-at-the-time wife and my first son) rented the cottage at the Coast Guard House Bed & Breakfast right by the pier. Do yourself and your family a favor - stay there for a couple of nights! Especially if you love your breakfasts, and it sounds like you do. If the owners are the same, and they didn't plan on leaving any time soon, they will take great care of you. They brought our breakfast to the cottage in the mornings - much more secluded than the main house.
Me and my son eating breakfast (please ignore the funny looking people, focus on the food!):
This is the view from the master bedroom:
This is the view from the cliffs:
The Point Arena Lighthouse is great, too! The Fresnel Lens in the top is incredibly beautiful. It is so powerful that they keep the exterior windows draped during the day to prevent tourists from damaging their eyesight from the sun's magnified rays. They also have a great museum with all kinds of artifacts. The museum illustrates the timber industry, the dairy industry, shipping by sea (no roads, too rugged), small gauge railroads - exciting stuff!
This is the lighthouse and the Fresnel Lens (best shot I could get, too close):
I didn't mean to get so carried away, but you were definitely in one of the most beautiful spots I have ever been. And what a great story! Thanks for finishing my day so well!