Hey Don,
I agree with you 100%, it is ALWAYS up to the buyer if they want to business with any particular seller that uses certain rules or surcharges that that particular seller puts in their sale or auction. I have NOT done business with several sellers, especially the ones who say they are not responsible for shipping damage to the items they pack and ship, or the ones who just drop off an item at a UPS store and then charge me the extra $100 or so that UPS charges them, or the seller who doesn't allow for a local pick-up (what are they afraid of?), or the ones that don't allow PayPal as a form of payment, or the ones who's rules are longer than their descriptions, or the ones with no actual pictures, or the arrogant seller (you can just tell from their auctions or sales), etc., etc., etc....
You see, it is ALWAYS up to me as a buyer NOT to buy from certain sellers, but on the other hand, as a seller, to get a better final price on my sale (or to save me the hassle of having to pack and ship something for a local buyer), I am VERY ACCOMMODATING to a potential buyer, and I think that is the problem with a lot of these arrogant eBay and Audiogon sellers in this day-and-age, the customer is always wrong....
Just my $.02
Retro