Me too, and I think that if we work on measurements and quantifying listening experiences, the gap can be narrowed.
Wherever there is a gap between our listening experience and what either can be measured or what science has already explained, there will be a debate. There can be no narrowing of the gap within the framework of the question as posed.
Folks who can have the faith that what they hear matters regardless of what measurements or science say, can effectively straddle the fence.
I like reading speaker measurements and though not a technical person, I did work in the hi-tech industry for several years. However in the end for me and I think for many, music listening is inherently a subjective activity. We all find meaning in it differently. Different moods, music, ambience and on and on. Do you listen while sitting, with the lights on, while cleaning the house.
Our mood will effect what we hear, how we hear, what we listen to and for. Science can only effectively measure the performance of a device within a controlled environment...it can't measure the human factor on the other end of the device. Not effectively and not without more variables to control than is really possible.
Since music listening is a subjective activity I give the most importance to what I hear. I have used measurements to explain what I hear. The slight nasality in vocals explained by a Stereophile reviewer for the Totem Rainmaker, it could easily be identified on the graph provided...the killer performance of the DeVore Silverback, on the other hand, could not be explained as easily. The measurements were not as clear...and even with them, the reviewer concluded that it was one of the best speakers he had heard.
As a subjectivist it's important for me to keep in mind the importance of science and measurement in the design and development of the products I love. There was a quote in this thread that I liked.
"Only a fool would design a speaker based on measurements alone and only a total fool would design a speaker based solely on subjective listening." Paul Dicomo, Marketing Manager, Polk Audio."
This is a about as close as this will come to being reconciled IMO.