How about just accepting that you know it when you hear it, and that you haven't heard it at least in a context where you knew exactly what it was, to label it? That's what I'm doing, and its working for me.
I don't need to fully understand a term to think that others have the right to use it. I do understand that rhythm/timing/pace are the skeleton that music exists upon, and that some gear just seems to plod along, losing this structure, and with it, allowing the music to lose much of its communication. I feel that if jazz and classical were played more often around here, I'd have a much stronger appreciation for it, as so much of the appeal of those genres lies in playing off the beat, and off of other players (or the conductor's) interpretation of it. If that weren't maintained, I could see the whole thing being quite frustrating. Just as I'm annoyed when a speaker is completely incoherent and sounds like three drivers playing out of time with each other. That is my go-to "no PRat" example for me, trying to understand it. But that's just it- I'm trying to understand it instead of just accusing those who do of making it up to slight my approach.
