Having lived alone for 25 years then becoming involved in a houshold with the woman in charge takes getting used to. I've never had anyone question my predilections for a long time. I became dissatisfied with my habits and surroundings and really wanted a change but I brought those habits with me. She is trying to fortify my expressed resolve to change but it's an old dog / new tricks scenario.
My advice is to get rid of gear you are not using, other than, perhaps, one spare set that you keep in a closet (that is, one amplifier or receiver, one pair of speakers, etc., just enough for one system and no more). Think about which pieces of gear you really like (it can help to think about why you like what you like, as you may change your mind when you think about why it is that you are wanting to keep a particular thing). Just keep the stuff you really like best, and get rid of the rest.
If you go with the mindset that you want to keep everything that is good, you will end up being a hoarder and not be able to walk through your house. Except, in your present case, you would be evicted.
Of course, you are free to ignore any and all advice you get online. Ask yourself, which advice is good and which isn't? Which course of action will make you most happy, all things considered?
You have said that you want to change. Do you really want to do that or not? If you really want to change, then do so.
I know it is hard to get rid of things that you like. I have too much gear myself. Although sometimes I start to feel regret about getting rid of something good that I sold, I stop feeling that way when I think about the stuff I have and what my home would be like if I never got rid of anything that is interesting. Although I understand the desire to collect things, there is no way I could have all of the interesting equipment that has been made, and trying to have it all would make my life worse, not better. Too much clutter is not good. And you can only properly listen to one system at a time, so having a bunch of extra gear is not really useful.