+1 on what others have said.
A variac and/or DBT would be highly recommended for the next power-up. At the cost of match quads that would be a cost effective way of not blowing out another tube. (Making a DBT is simple for anyone that can use basic tools.)
Have you measured anything? No use swapping out tubes if you don't know what is going on. I would be interested in the cathode voltages of both tubes. They should be around 30 volts. But equal. Glowing plate inducates gross overload. Also check that 250R/25W resistor.
Maybe now it's time to get help from a pro? This amp can kill you.
I'd honestly be looking at bad/leaky coupling caps. If the grid resistors are good and the tube sockets are fine, thats really all that remains here. The problem stays with the socket, so its not the tube. Its cathode biased but only happening on a single tube, so no failure of the bias supply is to blame.
Coupling cap will connect to the 1K resistor coming off pin 5 of the EL34 socket. Quick and dirty check, simply disconnect the cap and see if the tube stops red plating. The amp won't work correctly but if the tube quits going Chernobyl you have your answer.
More advanced check, measure the voltage from that point to ground with the cap installed and amp powered up and see what it does. It should not creep positive. If it does, the cap is leaking. Use extreme caution if you do this, lots of high voltage floating about.
Agree with @gadget73. Disconnect the amp, hook the red probe to pin #5, black probe to chassis. Then switch on. Voltage should stay near zero. Culprit will be the big brown C connected to it if it does creep up. Cathode voltage would have shown this too.
Thanks!
OK, here is what I found:
1. They are both 9.99ohm
2. The 1K and 220K are both measuring right
3. Where do I connect meter to check junction voltage? Will check tomorrow
4. Where do I connect meter to check cathode voltages? Will check tomorrow
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Thanks!. Had not thought of using a DBT as a "permanent" part of my amp's power source! I have one - not pretty - but can easily build a second more "permanent" one. It's going to need one heck of a bulb as the draw is pretty big!
Thats ok.Thanks!
OK, here is what I found:
1. They are both 9.99ohm
2. The 1K and 220K are both measuring right
3. Where do I connect meter to check junction voltage? Will check tomorrow
4. Where do I connect meter to check cathode voltages? Will check tomorrow
Ooooops. My bad. They are reading 227K...
I don't know, any number of things.Probably not, but what do you mean by "going bad" exactly?
Thanks!. Had not thought of using a DBT as a "permanent" part of my amp's power source! I have one - not pretty - but can easily build a second more "permanent" one. It's going to need one heck of a bulb as the draw is pretty big!
Thanks, will do! No, have not measured anything... As it is an auto bias, I have never needed to measure a thing, so I don't know how to do that?
Close enough. Check socket tension pin 5 on the suspect.Thanks!
OK, here is what I found:
1. They are both 9.99ohm
2. The 1K and 220K are both measuring right
3. Where do I connect meter to check junction voltage? Will check tomorrow
4. Where do I connect meter to check cathode voltages? Will check tomorrow
Ooooops. My bad. They are reading 227K...
Even with a relay I have blown speakers when SS outputs short out. It just takes one milcro blast of DC on those tweeter coils and that's it.In contrast to semiconductors that WILL blow up your speakers if they dump the supply voltage on the output without a protection relay.