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When AK members - friends - silently disappear

Sandy that is what I have assumed in some cases - a sudden serious disease. I hope I was always wrong but I fear I was not.

You're welcome brian222!

:-)
 
Some of my ol buddies left.

ProAC_Fan

Dave918(banned)

Ray Logan deceased

JHolt .. busy at work and home

Grumpy..oh wait he is still here.
 
HEY ALL~~~~~ I'm here to stay because I love it here and have met great people,also attend the AK Fest and its good to connect a name to a face.
So I guess I'll be like gum on your shoe---stuck here forever.
People come and go for various reasons,but that's life.
James
 
opt80 said:
Some of my ol buddies left.

ProAC_Fan

Dave918(banned)

Ray Logan deceased

JHolt .. busy at work and home

Grumpy..oh wait he is still here.
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I used to enjoy PaulC's posts. Have'nt seen him here in a while.
 
BTW, this thread discusses something I've had on my mind for years now. I'm a member of several forums, both audio and for other subjects (including cooking, knives & sharpening, firearms and wilderness survival/camping...even a philosophy forum!). There are several people I've knowing online for at least 10 years, talked to some of them on Skype or by cell. One guy I used to know from an audio forum used to play against me on Xbox Live.

When those folks drop off the grid I do wonder about them, and occasionally worry about them. As another poster asks, did they die? Fall ill? Hit hard times and not have internet? Or did they simply drift off to another forum or grow out of the subject matter? Sometimes I later read sad news, perhaps a post by a real world friend posting an obit for them. This has happened a few times. As we all become more wired and interconnected I expect this to happen more and more.

When I was studying IT I was contemplating some type of online service that would allow members of communities to post updates of their real world lives...if nothing else to notify their friends online if they were to die or become to ill to post.

As an example, my late Dad was a big forum guy. He posted on some shooting, fishing and outdoor forums. Towards the end his medications had him so befuddled he couldn't always figure out how to get online, and his physical condition made it difficult to use the computer. Some of his friends online were ones he talked to on the phone. One young fellow (disabled and wheelchair bound) was close enough to my Dad that Dad brought him out to take him hunting on our families land. When Dad passed two years ago I went through his computer and dug up his browser history and all his passwords. Then I went to his favorite haunts and posted an obit to let all his friends know why he wasn't posting, and to give them closure.

Again, thanks to the OP for this topic! As for my project, I switched from IT to business in school and never really had time to figure out how to implement and/or code this. But I still think it's a good idea. Any programmers or IT guys want to try to work it out?
 
Rob your are a member of a firearms forum AND a member of a philosophy forum? :scratch2: :D :thmbsp:

Well thank you for your remarks. Such postings make it easier for me to cope with the issue. Thank you very much that you share with us those intimate experiences concerning your father! :yes:
 
I've known guys who lived a pretty decent life with a wonderful blend of interests where they were fully invested in each . Having the ability to build engines and the 4x4 trucks to put them in and still fish like a madman hitting trout bass perch religiously ! But then when they met a girl they threw every bit of the things they loved and were putty to her will . The fact that they dropped it all for either a 6 month stint or a 3 year run amazed me because between the gals they picked right back up where they left off ! I believe losing your toys and then glomming all over a partner becomes overwhelming for even the most attention starved of people ! So hopefully some of the people who left could have impressed a gal with their personalities and are just sitting together listening to the systems built with fantastic help found here! At least with this hobby we have a chance to truly impress those who haven't heard a proper sounding system in a home ! Looking back to what systems I played music to dates that I brought home its no wonder it didn't work out ! And even more refreshing to know they left because of that and not me !
 
Rob Babcock said:
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As an example, my late Dad was a big forum guy. He posted on some shooting, fishing and outdoor forums. Towards the end his medications had him so befuddled he couldn't always figure out how to get online, and his physical condition made it difficult to use the computer. Some of his friends online were ones he talked to on the phone. One young fellow (disabled and wheelchair bound) was close enough to my Dad that Dad brought him out to take him hunting on our families land. When Dad passed two years ago I went through his computer and dug up his browser history and all his passwords. Then I went to his favorite haunts and posted an obit to let all his friends know why he wasn't posting, and to give them closure.
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I just had to say what you did for your Dad may be the kindest gesture I've read about on AK. :thmbsp:

Dave/ChairSpud
 
Some folks disappear due to death--it has happened here and I've lost a couple of friends this year on other forums...in one case the posts just stopped and I found out from a mutual friend and in another the friend's wife posted on behalf of her recently deceased husband to announce that there was a sudden heart attack--both cases very sad.
 
I still miss Zilch (Evan) - he gave to all of us here and on the Lansing forum ...
very friendly and patient guy - shipped me a care package once so I could
try out biamping with the right parts ... a loaner kit, but such trust to dropship
a box of gear to a "stranger" on the east coast he only knew via forums ...

When these kind of things happen, making friends in the forums, it can be amazing!
 
I promise to stick around at least long enough that yall sigh with relief and have a party when I leave ...
 
I know I've left a few forums because either my interest had changed or the climate of the board changed for the worse. There is one in particular I can think of where I've posted regularly in the past. A new admn came on board, and over time, the level of trash talk, sniping, and overall nasty stuff increased exponentially. In that case, I just left. Nobody noticed. My level of personal investment turned out to be pretty small.

In the case of AK, I've found the atmosphere positive, the discussion thought provoking, and the jokes groan inducing! :D If I stopped posting, I'd likely give a reason why. I feel like I'm a part of something here!
 
That's the way life goes. You meet people and feel like you really belong. But people change, life goes on, kids get born (still don't know how that happens, read there are women involved - yikes!), jobs disappear, mortgages or rent has to be paid... You belong where you live, and thats not on any internet forum.
 
bowtie427ss said:
If they glean any degree of satisfaction or gratification from it, the truly addictive personality will stick with something for a long time.

There are two kinds of AKer, the experimenter and the addict. Experimenters come and go. You always know where to find an addict.
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uh-oh.
 
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