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why can't i ever Just find a Girlfreind?

Echoing the earlier post, you are posing this in a forum for audio geeks...but with that said, here goes:
I have the same situation....almost.
I am a soph in high school and a huge nerd. All I can talk about is audio equipment (old only, and no digital), music (classical, "classic" rock, progressive, some jazz, and some showtunes). I also know more than a little about computers and I have a weight problem (being corrected). The only girl that I ever went out with was someone who on first impression, had no personality, was sad and miserable, and I was attracted to one of her friends. I started talking classical music and this girl (this was a camp for weight loss) that didn't look like she "belonged" was talking knowledgeably about music and wanting to learn more. Turns out, I started dating her, unfortunately nothing big came out of it, because she is in Iowa and I am in Saint Louis. The camp reunion was yesterday, and she was there. We are still very good friends, and if she was closer in residence, something would have come out of it. the moral of this rambling tale is that if you start talking what you like, know, and love, you will find someone who shares at least one of the same interests (my ex even liked vinyl). It took me 4 years...ever since 6th grade, and she wasn't even in my school, or state.
 
RaymondLeggs said:
I am african american but I am not attracted to african american women.
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One one hand, the way we're wired as far as what we do or don't find physically attractive is a hard, if not impossible, thing to overcome. That being said, maybe you're just, again, casting the net a bit narrow.

If I had a "type," I'd say [edited because of giving entirely too much information]. That said, I find all types of girls attractive and the ones I've dated cover a fair bit of ground as far as body types, facial features, and ethnic/racial backgrounds.

Just one downside of the internet pornocopia (and I'm not accusing you necessarily of having this problem or saying it doesn't pre-date internet porn) is that a lot of guys get the stupid idea that they're "all about" some phyical feature or collection thereof. Women are lovely. Each one is a complex human being and most are capable of surprising you if you give them the chance - end of story! :thmbsp:
 
Don't worry. Time will take care of everything, believe me. Been there, done that...

If you can't wait, get a CUTE little puppy and walk him in a park. Good things may happen.

I was painfully shy when I was in school. After high school things will get better. We all seem to have seperate timelines. Your day will come, just don't fret.
 
Forget all other advice you've been given. It all boils down to one question you have to ask yourself:

"Do you prefer CD's or Vinyl"?

I don't even know what that means :D . Just be yourself. Sounds corny, but you'll see.
 
meggy said:
Forget all other advice you've been given. It all boils down to one question you have to ask yourself:

"Do you prefer CD's or Vinyl"?

I don't even know what that means :D . Just be yourself. Sounds corny, but you'll see.
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Actually, I've found the more useful question to be "Does she prefer CDs or vinyl?" There's no turn-on like a girl who plays records.
 
I you don't want to be friends or "only if that's what it takes", I'm assuming that you just want to have sex and that comes off pretty quickly when you are talking to a woman. If you just want to have sex, pay for it. You'll be happier and you won't be bothering a woman who doesn't want some stranger drooling on her. Practice safe sex and you'll live healthier and longer.

If you ever decide you want to have a relationship with a woman, then go about it mostly the same way that you go about it with men. Find someone who has some common interests....loves the same kind of music, likes to go to concerts, bicycle, dance, rollerblade or what ever it is that floats your boat. Hang out doing what you love to do and enjoy each other's company. Something else may happen or not but eventually someone will click and in the meantime you have fun and friends.
 
I would love to be able to read this whole thread but I can't.

I will therefore jump to the conclusion that you are an intelligent guy getting dating advice from a bunch of audio nerds (embrace the fact) that wish they were 18 yrs old and could try again.

There are steps that you can take to make yourself more appealing to the opposite sex. Some of theses steps may be a compromise with your internal feelings and emotions. So long as you are not MEAN to anybody, then all things are available but my daughter.
 
Go Vinyl

winters860 said:
Actually, I've found the more useful question to be "Does she prefer CDs or vinyl?" There's no turn-on like a girl who plays records.
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HELL YES:music:!!!!! I cannot find any at my high school...yet.

My name is not vinyldavid for nothing.
 
Actually, my studied opinion is that as far as under-30 vinyl buyers I observe (purely anecdotal), women comprise at least half. And they aren't all making decorative bowls out of the LPs and hanging the covers on the walls by a longshot! Whether this has any import on AK's demographic makeup or on the social lives of its young males, I wouldn't even venture to guess, but it's something to think about.

The bad news comes when we examine the demographics of vinyl buyers over 30. It's bleak, gentlemen.
 
I have never, ever seen a woman under 45 going thru the record stacks at my local goodwill, ever. I go there almost every day.
 
jcmjrt said:
I you don't want to be friends or "only if that's what it takes", I'm assuming that you just want to have sex and that comes off pretty quickly when you are talking to a woman. If you just want to have sex, pay for it. You'll be happier and you won't be bothering a woman who doesn't want some stranger drooling on her. Practice safe sex and you'll live healthier and longer.

If you ever decide you want to have a relationship with a woman, then go about it mostly the same way that you go about it with men. Find someone who has some common interests....loves the same kind of music, likes to go to concerts, bicycle, dance, rollerblade or what ever it is that floats your boat. Hang out doing what you love to do and enjoy each other's company. Something else may happen or not but eventually someone will click and in the meantime you have fun and friends.
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I normally don't quote and agree with moderators, because it looks like someone is sucking up out of timidity to me when I see them do it.
But this advice sounds spot on to me and you should take heed to it.
Except the part about prostitution, I would not advise that, unless you live in Nevada .... then by all means ..... TAKE ME WITH YOU !!! ...... OH YEAH ..... YOUR BUYING !!! ------ :banana::banana::banana:
 
If you freeze up real bad, you may have an "social anxiety" disorder.
See your doc and he may prescribe some meds.

Unfortunately, the meds may remove your anxiety AND you desire for women.

Either that or just keep bobbing along in life and it generally all works out.
 
At 18 you are still very young and insecure with yourself. I would imagine if you asked 100 people your age if they felt comfortable with who they were and comfortable in their own skin, if answered honestly, a large % wouldn't be. Thats normal at your age. Just be yourself and be the best you that you can be. Women are attracted to someone who is easy to talk to and shows an honest interest in them. It's all about them, not about you. Don't come across as being needy. They also are attracted to someone who can share themselves honestly. You would do well in focusing on what would make you a happy person in life. Focus on a career, set goals and put forth the work to meet that goal. This will build self confidence which will be an attractive attribute to women. Take care of yourself and get in shape, women notice and are attracted to a nice body. When you get it, don't flaunt it or become cocky about it. Just don't forget while you are working on the outside, to also take care of and develop your insides. Most women worth having want a good person who is focused, self assured, nice build and someone who is a loving, caring individual. Your outside appearance will attract them, and then who you are will keep them.
 
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