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Are you jealous of good looking people?

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G'day all, yes this is a strange question, but I've just had a long and insightful meditation session and sometimes these kinds of questions pop up in my head!

I do frequently ponder on this as I do know people, both men and women who are close to physically perfect in appearance, but does it matter?

I guess that I do occasionally feel jealous for various reasons yet when one thinks about it, it is only 'appearance'. How deep is that? :scratch2:

It is a fact that despite the 'modern' perception that 'appearance' no longer matters, I think it still does in many situations! :yes: I think we all know that.

I guess there are advantages to being 'good looking', and I can think of a few right now. Job promotion and advancement, social success and whatever. Maybe and maybe not. Is jealousy a natural human reaction? I don't know.

Admittedly, due to my tenous health situation I've been forced to adopt such things as regular daily exercise and good nutrition and I do look better for it but I can't say that I've 'taken advantage' of my improved appearance in the way that others might... that's just not my way! Too heavy and deep for discussion? Sorry if it is. Regards, Felix aka catman.
 
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Bloody hell !

you are what you are - acceptance is the battle.

I know, I have female friends my age who've had a little nip or tweak here and there - but I believe if you are not damaged or suffering from difficulties like a deviated septum (and the breathing issues it can cause), you live with what you've got and be grateful for it. There are always some better looking and some worse. It just is.
 
I really enjoy to look at good looking people, male and female. But no jealousy - certainly a good looking is at least of minor importance for me.
 
G'day all, yeah hjames I guess so, but the seemingly inherent unfairness of life is very apparent to me at times.

As my avatar photo shows I'm not particularly good looking myself and looking back over my life I'm sure that hasn't helped in life at times.

However you are quite correct, it is the luck of the draw in large part and we all have to live with that. Still it isn't always 'fair'. Regards, Felix aka catman.
 
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I think I would question your meditation technique if you come out of it feeling jealous of others appearance.

To answer your question, no. I am not jealous of others appearance. I am comfortable in my own skin.
 
Consider yourself lucky to be alive. There are a lot of people in hospitals that are jealous of you.

When young I was amazed at the presence my father had when he entered a large room, like he could have been wearing an SS Gestapo uniform. The room would become quieter the further he walked into a hall. The older I become, the more it is happening to me. It is something I don't like at times.

By the way, I do not consider myself handsome.
 
G'day all, my meditation technique is fine :D, it's just I am all too aware of the impact that our appearance has on others in many and different ways, positive and negative. :yes: Regards, Felix aka catman.
 
You are what you are,some people are beautiful and some look like a can of crushed A-holes.

Environment and stress contribute to the facial appearance.
 
bogle111 said:
Consider yourself lucky to be alive. There are a lot of people in hospitals that are jealous of you.

When young I was amazed at the presence my father had when he entered a large room, like he could have been wearing an SS Gestapo uniform. The room would become quieter the further he walked into a hall. The older I become, the more it is happening to me. It is something I don't like at times.

By the way, I do not consider myself handsome.
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Was your father intimidating? maybe to some people his presense innerved them?
 
Jealous? No. Like to look? Sure.

My grandmother always said, "Pretty is as pretty does", and she was right. A beautiful facade can't overcome a bad personality.

When I was young and in college, I was hired as the "good-looking ugly man" at a Malibu modelling agency. I was popular and my phone rang off the wall. The typical reaction was, "Oooh Daddy!!". Summers were endless days of margaritas around pools. Lesbian models asked me to father their babies. (I didn't.) Learned 20 years after the fact, when she told my mother, that a teacher had been in love with me because. to her, I was "beautiful".

Did any of that get me anything? No. My early years were miserable and all I saw in the mirror (and a couple of magazine covers) was that unhappy person looking back.

Now the best I get is, "Hey, Grandpa!..." But life is better because I don't give a damn how I look and I've had decades of happier experiences or at least interesting experiences that leave me thinking "life is good". I used to care because I thought it mattered and I felt ugly, then I decided it didn't matter because it's what you know and what you learn and want to learn and not how you look, which is fleeting for all of us.

The majority of my constant friends over the years have been the young and beautiful 20-somethings, even amid my 50s, and I think that has been mostly because they encountered an open mind still intent on learning (and teaching) and hellbent on having fun.

Anyone who wants beauty can have it, if they *really* want it. Talked to a friend today who had her second cosmetic procedure as a followup to the first a few weeks ago. She looks great. But she looked great before and 20 years younger than her age. Now it's 40 younger. Is she happy? No.

I've read the studies that strongly suggest that beautiful people (highly symmetrical faces) do have an advantage. I think it's probably true. I know I always enjoyed a beautiful face across my desk among the many thousands and don't doubt I probably lit up a little with their first smile. But after a while, you get to the core of the person and beauty can become ugly and ugly can become beautiful in your eyes.

For me, vanity checked out many years ago, surfacing only for a moment here or there, like toward the end of my first five-year "retirement", when I suddenly realized I was out shopping in public, wearing an old pair of shorts with a hole in the seat and a pair of boxer briefs with a hole in the seat, and wondering if the three holes might have lined up. I've at least avoided doing that again, but spend no effort or expense beyond that.
 
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I'm not jealous because I am eye candy anyway, it's a burden I have to bear but I wear it well.
I also like to look at good looking women, because I know I have a good chance and I know they are looking at me thinking the same way.

Am I vein? No, just telling it like it is. :yes:
 
G'day all, I might also add that just because one looks fantastic doesn't necessarily mean that one is fit and healthy.

I recall with sadness a good friend of mine who looked very attractive and did everything right, actually she was my personal nutritionist for a number of years.

Sadly she tragically died of cancer in her early fifties. RIP Judy. http://www.thewesterner.com.au/Pages/article.aspx?ID=2553,

Regards,Felix aka catman.
 
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Was your father intimidating? maybe to some people his presense innerved them?
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No he wasn't, though may have been to some because of his confidence, which he exuded. He was striking, with predominantly grey hair from the age of 23, which was attributed to his serving as a Sniper in the Scots Guards in Italy in WW11.

On many occasions I have been seated at a dinner table at a function, and guests would murmur to each other "Who is that?". Women were like bees to a honey pot. He didn't suffer fools gladly. Heard he died about 2004ish.

He was also the only person I knew that could pass a slot machine, reach for loose change and win every time.:smoke:
 
For me, I have been around people that are jealous or should I say a bit resentful of so called good looking people. The old addage still holds that states, "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder."

I think many people are just plain jealous of not that the person is good looking, it is what society grants those people in perks. The better looking people are often in commericals, acting careers, & even some jobs just will not hire someone if they are not aesthetically pleasing to the eye.

You are what you are & for me I am glad I have a unique look. It affords me to meet those people who truly like me for who I am & not for what I look like.

Rome
 
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