I would recommend a second sub. Catman has a really nice pair of monitors that seem to be a lot like my Rega RS-1's in terms of size and low end production. I like the little Rega's for their airyness and pinpoint imaging as well as sweet sound. I found that I have to use a minimum of two subs to optimize the sound; one sub crossed over much higher than my second sub to make the over all sound more full. I really need another sub. Between that and placement, monitors or any speaker for that matter can be enhanced nicely with subs whether you play analog or digital.
I would go one step further and suggest at least 3 be used. I dont care what you are using or what software is tuning it, a single sub is never going to sound natural. By fiddling, you may get acceptable sound at the listening position, but it will be a compromise.
Room nodes just happen, and you are going to have places in the room where bass is over blown, and places where it is absent. There is no way to position a single sub to properly cover everywhere.
The best I have seen use at least three, (See Wayne's recommendations with his subs over on the Pi Speakers site/forum) This can at least keep these room nodes under control.
Now the forgoing doesnt address another major sub woofer problem, that of properly integrating the sub with the rest of the system, both electrically as well as acoustically. Using at least three also helps here, but doesnt really address the electrical (crossover) part. I really like the ideas put forth by Nelson Pass on crossovers and his articles on how he uses crossovers to integrate bass into the system.
Its a lot of work to "properly" (and expense!) integrate sub(s) is the point. Also, this is a hobby where tastes vary a lot, as well as what you are willing to "like." I have heard systems with subs that the owner had poured over adjusting phase and so forth, and frankly the result didnt sound natural in the least. More coherency without the subs is many times the case,which sounds like what Catman is experiencing here.
Interesting topic with a lot of varying levels of experience and tastes to say the least!
Russellc