Here's JA's take on this :
http://www.stereophile.com/content/tweaking-your-record-player-page-8
It is commonly believed that increasing a pickup's tracking force causes a corresponding increase in the rate of record wear. This is not so. It's not tracking force that matters, it's contact pressure, and because vinyl has a certain amount of elasticity, increasing the tracking force causes the stylus to sink farther into the vinyl, thus increasing contact-surface area. The pressure increases much less rapidly than force. Yes, there is a point where excessive force will exceed the vinyl's elastic limit, causing permanent groove indenting, but with most elliptical styli, this apparently doesn't happen until tracking force exceeds about 2.25gm.
The thing that does the most damage to record grooves is cartridge mistracking. When a stylus is simply incapable of following the groove modulations, it exerts contact pressures hundreds of times higher than when tracking an unmodulated groove. The fact that a lousy cartridge may require 5gm of force to eliminate most mistracking is what gave rise to the idea that it was the high tracking force that ruined discs. It is, rather, the stylus's inability to stay with the grooves at any reasonable force that does the damage. With a cartridge that tracks fairly cleanly at up to 2gm, you should expect several hundred plays before a highly modulated disc is ready for the dustbin.
-JA
It is good information, written by J. Gordon Holt for Stereophile in 1990. However, let's take note of a couple things. As respected as Stereophile is (well, depending, some people of course discount everything they write regarding reviews of equipment), there are no sources cited. This is an opinion piece. It doesn't make it wrong, but it does make it opinion. As such, it is more of what we're already seeing in this thread. Everyone has an opinion, most people got it from somewhere, but no one knows from whence it originally came.
One might also note that even in the above article, Holt did not state that a lighter tracking force than a heavier one causes more wear. He simply said that the rumor that a heavier tracking force causes more wear was false; he did not state that the opposite was true.
You might recall that a few pages back, I made an analogy to the old and often-repeated rumor that a person should drink 8 glasses of water a day. Hey, I have read it in publications. My doctor has said it to me as well. Should that not make it true? Should that not be enough evidence for me? I mean, professional magazines printed it, doctors said it. Why question it further?
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/water/NU00283
Everyone has heard the advice, "Drink eight 8-ounce glasses of water a day." That's about 1.9 liters, which isn't that different from the Institute of Medicine recommendations. Although the "8 by 8" rule isn't supported by hard evidence, it remains popular because it's easy to remember.
In other words, it's good to drink water, and it's not the worst advice in the world, it's generally accurate. But no one knows if that's actually factual. It's easy to remember.
"Light tracking force damages records." Easy to remember? True? Maybe. No one, apparently, actually knows. If J. Gordon Holt knew, he did not cite his sources. One can choose to believe that his knowledge and expertise were such that his saying something makes it true. But that's simply choosing to accept an opinion, like me accepting it when my doctor says to drink 8 glasses of water a day. It doesn't make it true, although it might have a basis in fact (and it might not).
I note that later on in that same article, Holt stated
"All cleaning solvents leach some of the plasticizer out of the vinyl, and while the amount is insignificant each time, it can add up to a significant loss of groove-wall flexibility if repeated dozens of times." I have heard that one many times also, and like the VTF issue, I have seen no proof of this. People SAY it, but they generally do not know if it is true or not, and do not seem to know from whence the rumor sprang. Is it true? Maybe it is! But maybe it is not. No real answers here; these are one man's opinions. A well-respected man, to be sure. But it doesn't mean it's true, especially with no sources cited.