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SolderIron
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My recent discovery - A box of donuts left in the frig for a while become a box of thick cookies
When asking for help, why not just ask for help?
At a friend's house today and she asked another man and myself to move a file cabinet. She actually said "Steve and James, how do you guys feel about moving a file cabinet?" So, of course an endless barage of smartass answers rolled right off of my tongue. The other guy was doubled over laughing while she stood there with THAT look on her face. So, I asked "Why not just ask us to move it instead of asking the awkward question?" She didn't know what to say. Why do people do that? Why not just ask the person(s) to do what ever needs to be done? Anything else is just awkward.....
.... and just after I posted this, she asked us to move a desk, only this time she just asked us to move the desk. It went so much better.
At a friend's house today and she asked another man and myself to move a file cabinet. She actually said "Steve and James, how do you guys feel about moving a file cabinet?" So, of course an endless barage of smartass answers rolled right off of my tongue. The other guy was doubled over laughing while she stood there with THAT look on her face. So, I asked "Why not just ask us to move it instead of asking the awkward question?" She didn't know what to say. Why do people do that? Why not just ask the person(s) to do what ever needs to be done? Anything else is just awkward.....
.... and just after I posted this, she asked us to move a desk, only this time she just asked us to move the desk. It went so much better.
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DesertRatt
All Bark, No Bite!
The mysteries of womanhood.
Quadman2
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Obviously she was feeling ill at ease asking you for this favour because:
She didn't know you that well?
The moving would be quite the chore, due to big size/weight?
One of you has a bad back?
I think she was just being super polite.
I wonder how you would have reacted if she asked either:
"Do you think you could move that filing cabinet for me?"
Or, "Is it possible you could move that filing cabinet for me?"
How would you have reacted to either of these "two inquiries"?
Splitting hairs here?
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Either of those questions would have been better than leading with "How do you feel about...." Leading in that way is just awkward regardless of the reason. No, she doesn't know me very well, but still. She did acknowledge the awkwardness when asking us to move the desk.
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Quadman2
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Personally, I'll use that very same approach, if...a chore is quite involved, costs quite a bit, or it's labour intensive.
It's kind of an indirect way of, "putsy-footing" to a degree, putting more ownership on the other person, seeing what they might think of doing something for you. Just "beating around the bush"...I guess is all?
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It's kind of an indirect way of, "putsy-footing" to a degree, putting more ownership on the other person, seeing what they might think of doing something for you. Just "beating around the bush"...I guess is all?
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To me, being direct while still being respectful just feels like the best approach. It always has. A long time ago, a supervisor asked me if I wanted to do something. I said "Do I want to or will I?" He said "Will you?" in a mildly annoyed fashion. I said "Sure." and went right to it. Also, the soft soap approach always opens one up for a smartass response and I am a smartass, especially when presented with such a golden opportunity.
That reminded me of something I hate. When the boss says, "Can WE make sure to finish that?" Or "What do WE think of that decision?"
This WE business. When it really means YOU.
My wife does that to me all the time. WE need to do this, or that. Meanwhile I'm the one who always does it.That reminded me of something I hate. When the boss says, "Can WE make sure to finish that?" Or "What do WE think of that decision?"
This WE business. When it really means YOU.
It's so ironic how life is, at times.
I tell people, including my better-half, not to say "WE" if you mean "YOU".
"Royal" PITA.And I thought, previously, that "WE" was to be used only with... "Royalty".
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And we aren't talking bread.
Quadman2
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I do hope that you like...cake."Royal" PITA.
And we aren't talking bread.
And are def attached to your head!
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SolderIron
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My simply says XXX has a problem or YYY needs to be done. It was spoken and it shall be taken care off
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Blissful third-person talk.My simply says XXX has a problem or YYY needs to be done. It was spoken and it shall be taken care off
FEMALES, sometimes...
DesertRatt
All Bark, No Bite!
Stewardess: "I need you to put your tray table up."
When did that kind of language come into use? Need? She needs my tray up? What the hell was wrong with "Please put the tray up." Why do I need to be concerned with her "needs"?
When did that kind of language come into use? Need? She needs my tray up? What the hell was wrong with "Please put the tray up." Why do I need to be concerned with her "needs"?
The perfect female trap: "Does this top make me look fat?"
Never go shopping for clothes with your wife or girlfriend.
Never go shopping for clothes with your wife or girlfriend.
