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Sobriety, something new for me...

Remember......Sobriety is one thing NO ONE can take from you.......Wear it proud! and as always ......I'm here to talk......Keep up the good work -Dave-
 
Hooray! So by your own experience you know it can be done. You are doing great. One thing for me that I just couldn't fathom was what life would be like without. I knew it could be probably be done but thought that everything would be incredibly boring and tedious. Now I know it turns out to be the exact opposite.
 
Very inspiring! Keep it up, we're rooting for you.
Regards,
Jim
 
It's time to reconnect with the things in your life that took a back seat to your drinking. One must be collecting gear, otherwise you wouldn't be here. Find a new angle, something in audio you've never attempted or experienced before (analog if you aren't currently into it, DACs and flac is a pretty tough nut to crack). These diversions will keep your mind off the jones and it won't be long till the hard part's over. Your body is a temple to whatever spirit you now entertain, and it's up to you to maintain it cleanly. You've got thousands here pulling and praying for you, now get behind that awesome power and run with it.
 
Mister Tawny said:
Anyway after a decade of hard drinking, tonight marks the 3rd night of sobriety. I tried AA and it didn't work for me. But for now I'll see if I can find the path to make it stick. Nothing earth shattering for the rest of you, but for me it's a big deal. Anyone with any advice is greatly appreciated.....
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Take one day at a time, and remember you can't control the drinking it controls you when you use.

It's hard to do this, but it is the best thing you can do for yourself and those around you.

Find someone you can talk to, really talk to, not about the weather, but about whats going on in your head,during this tough beginning, so the rest of your life will be free of the drinking.

I did the same thing, 23 years ago, and I still work on my sobriety, but it's not as hard as it used to be.

Good luck, and God bless.
 
It's funny. In a couple of days will be the 6 month mark and I am thinking about doing a celebration, a one off every 6 month bender. I can (and do) control all my meds and so much more without any problems. But I feel part of me is still wanting. I figure that going comatose once every 6 months won't hurt and the morning after will remind me why I quit in the first place.

Right now it's forbidden fruit, but to make it just something I don't care to do anymore might make it easier. I am not asking for approval (or disapproval), just a few thoughts, and if possible, experiences you may be able to share.

As of now I consider myself a non-drinker (BTW I don't think I mentioned I was raised Mormon, so the forbidden fruit aspect is always there), but I want to still leave myself open to options.

So now to your thoughts....
 
I think it's a dumb idea. If it were that easy for you to quit after one day you would have quit a long time ago. In fact... You never would have been an alcoholic/drug addict in the first place. Six months of sobriety is good, but it's really nothing in the grand scheme of things. It's sounds to me like you just want to drink again because you're bored. Slick is on your shoulder telling you "It's alright to do it every once in a while... Just to remember why you don't like it". It sounds like a ridiculous and unnecessary risk to me. I had those same thoughts myself in the first couple years of sobriety but was lucky enough to know from my stint in rehab that they would be coming and recognize them for what they were. Focus your attention on something else. If you really want to remember why you're not getting high anymore, go somewhere where practicing drug addicts hang out and just watch them... You'll remember why you stopped.
 
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6 months is a long time. 1 year sober is even better. 2 years is better, and so on. You should be proud of yourself. Why ruin your record? I think you will be disappointed with yourself if you start up again.

Never let anyone tell you that you don't know how to drink, because obviously you do know how to. But you don't need to prove that to anyone.

Isn't it nice remembering everything you did the night before. Isn't it nice staying out of trouble? There are many non drinkers or ex-drinkers out here.

Keep your record going. I don't know if your single or not, but nice girls, guys, bosses, parent, etc. like people that have their act together. Excessive drinkers usually do not.

Great job on 6 months.:thmbsp:
 
The wanting is always going to be there. It's the strength of the want that will ebb and flow as time passes.

I don't think a "six month bender" is a good idea at all. I'm afraid it has too much of a chance of being a permanent fall back into the old habit. Don't do it.
 
the 6 month mark was always difficult for me. it was far enough away from the reason i quit in the first place, i felt better, had my life back together a bit, etc... so i'd convince myself i was ok and that i could have a few. never worked for me, it may have started out as just a few but within a month i'd be right back where i started. just my experience but from what you described initially it might not be a great idea for you either.
mike
 
It would appear that my idea for a celebration was at best ill conceived. So on the 6 month date I suppose instead of drinking I'll just have a barbecue instead. Not quite the same impact, but at least the date will be noted, and my life will move forward.
 
Excellent! The AA creed/thought about it being one day at a time is true. It takes some real inner strength to go through it but you seem to know that it is the right path.

Congratulations!
 
Mister Tawny said:
It would appear that my idea for a celebration was at best ill conceived. So on the 6 month date I suppose instead of drinking I'll just have a barbecue instead. Not quite the same impact, but at least the date will be noted, and my life will move forward.
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There ya go. There's nothing wrong with a celebration, it's just finding a "healthy" way to do it that's important. Don't be afraid to do some weird stuff either, like playing with toys. I never got very good at it, but I took up the yo-yo for awhile, because it gave me something to do, when I felt a little antsy. :D Hang in there, you're half way to your FIRST year. :thmbsp:
 
Congrats to everyone who beat an addiction and manages to keep it up. Considering the temptations out there, I consider myself lucky I've managed to avoid any habit (OK, discounting my collections).

Keep up the good work!
 
Mister Tawny said:
It would appear that my idea for a celebration was at best ill conceived. So on the 6 month date I suppose instead of drinking I'll just have a barbecue instead. Not quite the same impact, but at least the date will be noted, and my life will move forward.
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Excellent idea.

I've several close friends and family members who've suffered and recovered from addiction. One thing I was told many years ago, and it may be controversial, but alcoholism can be a progressive disease. For example, a recovering alcoholic who's remained sober relapses and goes on a "bender" after 10 years of sobriety. The disease progresses over that time, even though he's not had a drink for a decade. It's as he'd never stopped drinking, often with disastrous consequences.

I wish you the very best of luck, and congratulations on your continued sobriety.
 
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