This ain't rocket science...pins 1 through 4 aren't used at all (there may be holes in the PC board, but there are NO foil traces to these pins and thus nothing to solder to). These are the 'NC' pins, the ones making contact with the 'common' contacts (9 through 12) when the relay is at rest. My manual suggests that the PC board lacks holes for pins 2 and 3. I don't know if that's accurate, as I can't remember. If the holes are only there for 1 and 4, then clip off 2 and 3 and solder it up.
When engaged, 5 & 9, 6 & 10, 7 & 11, and 6 & 12 are all connected.