May day... May day... my wife discovered my stash today

[vinyldavid]

You guys are all lucky, I have to fit all of my gear into a 10x10' room, no basement, no closet.

Oh man...that's like my nightmere. if I put even just the gear in my room all together I bet it would be more than 10x10x10....


..that's not counting records.

My room's 14' long x 11' wide x10' high. And I have the 4' wide x 6' long closet.

 

[olblueyez]

Just go show her the popurri on the toilet and the friggin roosters in the kitchen and tell her to keep out of your closet. If not then threaten to move the stash up to the ground floor or bedroom closet.

 

[motorstereo]

Wow I feel bad for some of you guys that have to lie about, hide, and sneak their gear in. Either that or I should consider myself lucky. My unused stack of gear seems to bother me much more than it does my wife. I'm always honest about pricing to. I do get some flac sometimes of course. I just can't see the point in being dishonest about friggin stereo gear.

 

[33&athird]

You guys are all lucky, I have to fit all of my gear into a 10x10' room, no basement, no closet.

I have it way worse, due to the current living conditions (Which I swear will change this year), All my audio stuff, and junk in general fits into about a 10' by 3' area, only other space is the basement, but that's only for the workbench, another small area. All this because we have way to much plain-out junk in the house, numerous reasons...hell, I haven't had my own room since I was 5yrs. old. Plain-out frickin' depressing... Whatever, enough complaining (on my part)...

When I drag something in, my dad's normally the one concerned about it, and I normally tell him what it is, and why I got it...after that, he's pretty cool about it. If i'ma bout to get it, I tell him pre-emptively. That's why it's been alright when I got a sx-727, a oscilloscope camera, and alot of other knick-knacks:yes:.

 

[the_nines]

I just changed the shower head. I figure I'm good for a while.

We just finished a brand new kitchen, hallway & stairs (with banister). Party on!!

Seriously, I think my wife has given up by now (it's been 33 years). Mind you she never really minded. She was the one who went to her mother's house and collected all her Pink Floyd and Beatles albums to bring to our new home when we got married. She likes to listen to them on "our" gear & particularly likes to listen to Wish You Were Here on the living room system (my sig). God bless her .

There are many worse things in life than audio stuff, and she knows it.

 

[the_nines]

She opened the basement closet and discovered all my unused gear I had stashed. Not a good thing for me.

Damn women.

Ask her if she would rather you have some other habit/addiction besides stereos and tell her before she answers to think about it a bit.

You are who you are.

 

[Jcricket]

damm I am spoiled!
You can't walk around in my study, the basement is a hazardous workplace, The lvivng room looks like a test bench. My wife says I love you ahve a nice day.

How did I get so lucky!

Then again, I gave her onw whol corner of the basement with a granit work table, lihting, and enough crat tools , supplies to keep her busy forever.

Still, I am DANG lucky.

When she does get overloaded, I sell a piece or two and use the funds to get her something nice - that works well too.

 

[Hyperion]

So what precisely was the issue?

Too much space used up?
Unused gear - a waste?
The cost of the unused gear?
You didn't tell her?

I always discuss the proposed purchase of a piece of gear with my wife - I know how much I can get away with - and so far she hasn't said no.
Where I DO get into some problems is when I order replacement parts - like caps, resistors and the like - and I get a bit of a lashing for "all those little packets" that keep coming through the letterbox - lol

 

[FredC]

Just tell her they belong to your girlfriend. Then she'll forget all about the audio gear.

 

[meggy]

Sell some of it and give her the money.

 

[bowtie427ss]

On the topic of my audio hobby and it's excess, the last words from me to my wife were:
"don't let the door knob hit ya where the good lord split ya"

She is not missed.

Your hobby and how you approach it are part of what makes you who you are, beware of anybody wanting to change that.

 

[d-ray657]

When two people share a home and a life, there needs to be a balance. Sometimes the fulcrum moves one way or the other, but the idea is always to think of the other and things get worked out.

It took my wife a little while to get used to the gear coming in - and at one point I was going a little crazy about sampling this and that. Little things along the way have helped her acceptance - how happy her dad was when I set up a system for him; handing over $100 when I made my first sale off of CL; inviting her to participate in a restoration project; making a big sale on ebay in time to pay for part of Christmas with paypal. It did help a lot when she saw that some of the things that came in the door go back out at some point.

It also didn't hurt that she had my blessing to buy a new quilting machine, or that I am able to find some of her favorite artists on CD at the thrift stores; or that in addition to fixing stereo gear, I fix things around the house and at her parents' house.


Most important to her, though, is that it makes me happy, just like I am thrilled when she can lose herself in sewing for a few hours or days.

Regards,

D-Ray

 

[jimdandy]

what the hell? that's idiotic.
If you're serious, and you have to hide gear from your wife then you both probably shouldn't be married in the first place.

I really, really don't get it eh.

Dude, lighten up. My post was pretty tongue in cheek. I was storing it -- did I tell her how much I had stored? No. Was she pissed about it? Not really. Just rolled her eyes...

 

[johnda]

DIVE, DIVE, DIVE!

Take her down! "Krump" "Krump" "KRUMP!"

 

[jimdandy]

I'm the OP of this thread -- just for clarification: my wife is not pissed. Oh, she was a little surprised at how much "crap" I had in the closet. But she knows me and she knows my passions -- music and acoustic guitars (have 4 of them).

Been married for 11 years -- rock solid marriage. I know my limits and I know when I should discuss purchases with her.

When she discovered my "stash" she was giving me **** more than anything. She's a great woman -- almost as great as my Marantz 2245 .

 

[EPI-Center]

I got my wife a laptop for Christmas and after Christmas she was hating on some gear and I told her that her laptop was paid for with funds from gear I sold (I sold a bunch of stuff in Nov. and Dec. trying to make room for the Christmas tree because she was very upset)....although some of the speakers I sold I slightly lose on or break even, at least I can recoup the money..fix the speakers up and keep them in circulation...

When two people share a home and a life, there needs to be a balance. Sometimes the fulcrum moves one way or the other, but the idea is always to think of the other and things get worked out.

It took my wife a little while to get used to the gear coming in - and at one point I was going a little crazy about sampling this and that. Little things along the way have helped her acceptance - how happy her dad was when I set up a system for him; handing over $100 when I made my first sale off of CL; inviting her to participate in a restoration project; making a big sale on ebay in time to pay for part of Christmas with paypal. It did help a lot when she saw that some of the things that came in the door go back out at some point.

It also didn't hurt that she had my blessing to buy a new quilting machine, or that I am able to find some of her favorite artists on CD at the thrift stores; or that in addition to fixing stereo gear, I fix things around the house and at her parents' house.


Most important to her, though, is that it makes me happy, just like I am thrilled when she can lose herself in sewing for a few hours or days.

Regards,

D-Ray

 

[jimdandy]

When two people share a home and a life, there needs to be a balance. Sometimes the fulcrum moves one way or the other, but the idea is always to think of the other and things get worked out.

It took my wife a little while to get used to the gear coming in - and at one point I was going a little crazy about sampling this and that. Little things along the way have helped her acceptance - how happy her dad was when I set up a system for him; handing over $100 when I made my first sale off of CL; inviting her to participate in a restoration project; making a big sale on ebay in time to pay for part of Christmas with paypal. It did help a lot when she saw that some of the things that came in the door go back out at some point.

It also didn't hurt that she had my blessing to buy a new quilting machine, or that I am able to find some of her favorite artists on CD at the thrift stores; or that in addition to fixing stereo gear, I fix things around the house and at her parents' house.


Most important to her, though, is that it makes me happy, just like I am thrilled when she can lose herself in sewing for a few hours or days.

Regards,

D-Ray

D-ray, you got it figured out -- sounds like a good marriage. :thmbsp:

 

[barkerd]

perspective :
"I dont have to answer to anybody" : if true : not necessarily a good thing

If you dont have any other vices (golf, mens organized sports etc etc ) then spending a small amount of $$ on something that brings you great pleasure (and your family isnt affected financially) then I think some perspective (on her part) is in order

If , on the other hand, you spend $8000 / yr on golf , are out 4 nights a week with buddies ....then I think she has a point

golden rule here : is she treating you the way she expects to be treated ?????
thats the measure I usually fall back on

 

[jimdandy]

... and how is she in the sack? That can make up for her lacking in other areas.

 

[donberry]

Rookie

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